Day 25: Thank You Note
Take this opportunity to write someone a thank you note. It can be anonymous, or you can actually address it to the person (or thing) you’re writing it to. Maybe you want to thank your parents for the extra support they gave you in 2012, or perhaps a thank you to a friend who helped you through a rough patch. Or maybe you want to thank your body for being amazing. Whatever and whomever you’re grateful to, write that letter you never wrote.
Sometimes I feel like I don’t act like I am grateful for you and all that you do, so I thought I would write you this thank you note.
First off, thank you for coming into my life about 7 years ago. As soon as you came into Rachel’s dorm room and started playing Rent’s “Sante Fe” on your bass, I got the major CFs and knew that I wanted to get to know you and date you. Little did I know that I would still watch you rock out on your bass this very day, which I love because you are such a talented musician and you look so happy doing it. I will always be your #1 fan.
Thank you for loving me in spite of my flaws. I’ve told many people about how you are my rock and balance. Whenever I am freaking out about something (and you and I know that I can tend to freak out often!), you try to calm me down and help me remember that it’s not the end of the world and things will work itself out. I’m especially thankful that you were there for me while I was in the comps process, a super stressful time in and of itself. Not only were you super supportive while I was studying and taking the damn things, but you were awesome enough to give me practice questions that actually ended up showing up on the exam! As Danielle put it – maybe you know more about what I do then you lead on to believe. 🙂
With that said, thank you for supporting me and allowing me to follow my dreams of going to grad school, getting a Ph.D., and becoming a tenure-track professor. I think it takes a very special person to date an academic, and you are certainly no exception. Even though you may not understand completely everything that I do, you have always been there for me if I needed to vent about a student, or share some good news about my studies. I even miss those days when you would help me grade my exams for COMM107 by marking all of the multiple choice – that was fun.
Thank you for being such a kind and thoughtful partner. In the over 6.5 years we have been together, you have never said a mean word that made me feel worthless, or dumb, or not valued. You treat me so well, and you have given me so much over the years (and not just the material things, though I do love that iPad you gave me, thanks honey :-P). I love spending time with you, even if it means just sitting on the couch watching Diners, Drive-ins, and Dives. I can’t wait for our Triple D/rollercoasters honeymoon, BTW.
Finally, I’m thankful that you love me enough and want to be with me enough to propose to me before my whole academic job market stuff was settled. I’m thankful that when you gave me that ring, you told me you loved me and that we will work it out no matter what. I’m thankful that I am going to be your wife and spend the rest of my life with you. I can’t wait to have a home with you and fill it with adorable mixed babies. 🙂
I know that our time together has in no way been perfect, and we’ve definitely had our rough patches, but through it all I’ve always come back to the realization that I can’t imagine my life without you. Thank you for being an amazing partner, lover, and friend. I love you so much and I can’t wait to officially start my forever with you. Thank you.