Day 3, Let go of old frames: How are you framing yourself, your relationships, your community, and your dreams? Could you reframe these as begin 2015? What do you need to let go of to cultivate your best life in 2015?
I’ve set a list of goals for myself in 2015. I’m not going to list them now, as I feel I will touch upon them in these posts, but the one I want to talk about today is something I have struggled with for a long time, and will probably continue to struggle with throughout this entire year. But it’s something that I’ve actively decided to work on, and that’s the important thing.
My goal is this: to decrease my anxiety this year. Many folks know that I have some anxiety issues, and I know it happens and that’s not a problem, but what I mean is that many times I give myself unnecessary anxiety that doesn’t need to be there in the first place. Let me give a case example that I’ve used when discussing this with friends and co-workers this past week.
Let’s say that my Director sends me an email saying that he wants to meet with me. My instant gut reaction? Oh no, what did I do wrong? Am I in trouble? Am I going to get fired? etc. etc. Then begins this downward spiral of me freaking out and thinking the worst scenario possible, when oftentimes it’s absolutely nothing at all. Actually, sometimes it’s just the opposite – it’s actually a good thing! What tends to happen in these situations is that I blow it all up in my head and get all anxious and worried for no good reason. There’s no hard evidence to back my fears up. And this situation doesn’t just happen in regards to work, no, it’s happened in all aspects of my life, including my relationship with Derek and my friendships.
So in 2015 I’m going to try super hard to STAHP feeling unnecessarily anxious, to STAHP over analyzing every email or text thinking everyone is mad at me, and to just relax, breathe, and LET IT GO. Because 9 times out of 10 everything is fine and things will get worked out. And that 1 time out of 10 I probably deserve to get my ass kicked anyway. 😉